It's a Journey

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No Hobbies

by | Jan 27, 2016

No Hobbies Do you have your own business? Are you thinking about starting one? I'd tell you to put some structures in place for work-life balance. Or not. I was conflicted about this for a long time. I loved my work so much that everything else basically fell away....

The Part-Time Single Parent

by | Jan 19, 2016

The Part-Time Single Parent When my first son was in his first year, I remember being so relieved I wasn't a single parent. I was in awe of anyone who was. Years later, I'm a single parent to two spirited boys for half of my life. The other half, I'm supposedly...

Ex Flare-Ups

by | Jan 10, 2016

  Ex Flare-Ups Some things in life flare up on you. No warning, no pattern you can predict; they're just suddenly there. That's how I've come to think of dealing with my ex. Not constant, not even frequent, but when it happens, it happens fast and hits harder...

Step 9

Oct 10, 2015 |

  Step 9 Divorce is usually the end result of a fairly typical progression: You get married. You begin navigating married life together. You and your partner start facing real challenges. You...

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Know Yourself First

Sep 30, 2015 |

Know Yourself First When I realized my marriage was over, one of the first things I started thinking about was how much harder my life was about to get. Everything was going to be harder. I was...

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Believing in the Plan

Sep 23, 2015 |

Believing in the Plan I hate spending money. Some genetic combination of Scottish, Dutch, and a Depression-era family upbringing turned me into someone who gets anxious just walking up to a cash...

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Advocate, Mom, Writer

My days these days are mostly advocacy, with my kids always first, and hiking, biking, and cold plunging worked in whenever I can. Winter cold plunges aren’t for everyone, but there’s a strange kind of beauty and calm in it that I’ve come to need.

Separation was a journey. It took time, and it taught me most of what I know now.