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The Part-Time Single Parent

by | Jan 19, 2016

The Part-Time Single Parent When my first son was in his first year, I remember being so relieved I wasn't a single parent. I was in awe of anyone who was. Years later, I'm a single parent to two spirited boys for half of my life. The other half, I'm supposedly...

Ex Flare-Ups

by | Jan 10, 2016

  Ex Flare-Ups Some things in life flare up on you. No warning, no pattern you can predict; they're just suddenly there. That's how I've come to think of dealing with my ex. Not constant, not even frequent, but when it happens, it happens fast and hits harder...

Marriage Is a Credit Card

by | Dec 21, 2015

Marriage Is a Credit Card I've been getting some strong reminders lately about the importance of planning. Very strong. The core lesson keeps repeating itself: skip the upfront planning on something important, and things can go badly wrong. Do a little work ahead of...

Know Yourself First

Sep 30, 2015 |

Know Yourself First When I realized my marriage was over, one of the first things I started thinking about was how much harder my life was about to get. Everything was going to be harder. I was...

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Believing in the Plan

Sep 23, 2015 |

Believing in the Plan I hate spending money. Some genetic combination of Scottish, Dutch, and a Depression-era family upbringing turned me into someone who gets anxious just walking up to a cash...

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Advocate, Mom, Writer

My days these days are mostly advocacy, with my kids always first, and hiking, biking, and cold plunging worked in whenever I can. Winter cold plunges aren’t for everyone, but there’s a strange kind of beauty and calm in it that I’ve come to need.

Separation was a journey. It took time, and it taught me most of what I know now.