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The Rules We Make up and then live by

by | Jul 31, 2015

The Rules We Make Up and Then Live By I think about a certain kind of conversation I've had more than once over the years, always some version of the same shape. Someone in the middle of a hard divorce, scared of what a judge might decide, has quietly built a set of...

Rules for Email

by | May 20, 2015

Rules for Email When my ex and I first separated, I spent a long time carefully crafting every email to him, trying to make sure there was nothing in it that could be read as offensive. I didn't want another attack coming back at me; reading those was genuinely...

What an attack email does

by | May 20, 2015

What an Attack Email Does My ex sent me a doozy of an attack email the other day. He sent it on Monday, and it's now Wednesday. It was a good reminder of everything I've learned this past year, and of the havoc these kinds of emails can cause. I actually have to thank...

Advocate, Mom, Writer

My days these days are mostly advocacy, with my kids always first, and hiking, biking, and cold plunging worked in whenever I can. Winter cold plunges aren’t for everyone, but there’s a strange kind of beauty and calm in it that I’ve come to need.

Separation was a journey. It took time, and it taught me most of what I know now.