It's a Journey

Same Money, Different Story

Same Money, Different Story Retirement takes up a lot of space in our collective consciousness. It's what we're all supposedly saving for, and it's especially loaded right now, when so many people struggle to get by while working full-time. How are we supposed to save...

The Story I told myself about money

The Story I Told Myself About Money The stories that play in our heads usually get planted there by whatever's happening in the world around us as we grow up. We absorb them from parents, friends, and the wider culture, and depending on how loud and constant they are,...

No Hobbies

No Hobbies Do you have your own business? Are you thinking about starting one? I'd tell you to put some structures in place for work-life balance. Or not. I was conflicted about this for a long time. I loved my work so much that everything else basically fell away....

Divorcing Better

Divorcing Better When I was freshly separated, I was under terrible stress and in extreme emotional pain. My days were consumed with anger and sadness, and I remember wondering if anything could be...

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Step 9

  Step 9 Divorce is usually the end result of a fairly typical progression: You get married. You begin navigating married life together. You and your partner start facing real challenges. You...

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Advocate, Mom, Writer

My days these days are mostly advocacy, with my kids always first, and hiking, biking, and cold plunging worked in whenever I can. Winter cold plunges aren’t for everyone, but there’s a strange kind of beauty and calm in it that I’ve come to need.

Separation was a journey. It took time, and it taught me most of what I know now.